Tuesday, February 23, 2010

The One About Selling

So we have a contract on our home! Someone came and saw it on Friday, made an offer, we accepted & signed the contract earlier this evening. I'm spinning... wow.

Now we need to pass the inspection & appraisal. *gulp*

I'm having such mixed emotions over this. I'm actually surprised at how I feel. I'm looking fw to being in VT. Closer to family, friends, church & Friday School. More schooling opportunities for the children as well. I'm looking fw to all of that... but at the same time I'm feeling a bit of sadness over leaving this place.

I'm not sure exactly why. I can say that the person I was when I moved into this house has changed drastically. My parenting, my ideals, my goals, my day to day living habits... everything has changed. It's amazing to me to think about. 3 of my babies learned to walk in this house. I lost 2 babies in this house. Matt & I have grown closer together in this house.

It's just a house & I can bring all those memories with me, but there is just a hint of sadness at the reality of leaving.

Thursday, February 11, 2010

The One With An Experiment

Can anyone tell what our project this week is?

Michael got this book for Christmas, so we decided to try a project from it for this weeks science experiment.

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

The One About Breaking the Will.

Last night we were at Rangers & I was chatting with some other Moms in the church library. We were talking about letting babies cry it out. I admitted to having done that with Michael and Nathan. Later I was thinking about why I allowed it to happen, tho my Mommy heart was being torn apart by it. It all boils down to my old thinking process of having to "break the will" of the child. My views of children use to be so different than they are now. I used to view them as ignorant little people who were always in the wrong and the adult always in the right. I used to think they all had an evil will and needed it to be broken in order for them to become good human beings.

Then Nathan turned 3. And my attempts at breaking his will were turning him into a monster. He was angry and violent. It was so difficult for me as I thought I was the worst parent ever and would end up with a juvenile delinquent... the only 3 y/o to end up in jail. (Ok, not that bad... I'm being over dramatic now. lol )

I needed a new way of thinking and a paradigm shift started in my mind. I began to research everything I could about how the Lord disciplines us... I started looking at my own life and the lives of others close to me. I started searching the Bible & various parenting books, looking for answers. And what I found was completely different than what I went into parenting thinking was right.

Here's what it boils down to (in my mind right now)... the Lord gave my children (and each of us, really) a will. He gave it to us because He has a plan to use it someday. We can choose the break that will in our children and force them to become someone the Lord did not choose for them to be. (or force them to really struggle with finding who the Lord wants them to be) Or we can choose to redirect the will, teach them to handle it and provide them with opportunities to learn to use it in a positive way. It's like what the Lord does with us... he doesn't stand over us FORCING us down a certain path. He gives us the tools we need & the choices in front of us. We can either use His tools and choose the right path or we can ignore His tools and choose the wrong path. No matter which path we choose there will be consequences. Positive, uplifting consequences on the right path and negative consequences on the wrong path... but no matter what, the Lord doesn't stand over us breaking our will and taking the choices away from us. He wants us to trust Him, following the path He has chosen. If we don't He allows us to live with the consequences, forgives us and often opens opportunities to get back on the right path.

So my parenting views have changed over the past 5 years & it's been a work in progress. I'm still second guessing myself often and wondering how they will end up as teenagers and adults. We're only 4 years from Michael turning into a teenager and it's a bit scary when I think about it. However, I have changed my views with much prayer and Bible study.

Monday, February 8, 2010

The One With a Haircut

Karah has been asking me to cut her hair for quite some time now. I've always felt a bit reluctant & have done nothing more than trim it now & then. Today we were looking at my friend's pictures on facebook. She has a daughter Karah's age & just took her in to get her haircut. Karah said she reallllllyyyyyy wanted me to do it, so I decided to finally do it. I don't have before pictures (tho you can scroll down to other posts and see her w/ long hair). But here's how it turned out... I even did side swept bangs for her, which she also really wanted. :)

The others also wanted their pictures taken... well, at least Katie & Erich did. The boys, not so much... but I had to include them anyway. :)

Monday, February 1, 2010

The One With The Girls Dressing Up...

The Girls played dress up together for the first time yesterday. Katie was so proud to be in that little purple dress. She didn't want to take it off. LOL! As you can see, she's really into her doll lately too. How did she get so old?