Tuesday, December 30, 2008
I've been doing a lot of thinking about children and chores. Why must it be such a chore to get them to do their chores? We use incentives as in allowance... *I* use nagging *blush* Doesn't work too well, really. So, after reading a book and chatting w/ a friend I'm coming up with a new system.
They will each have their daily required chores. Then there will be 'extras' that they can choose to do. All chores are worth 10 cents, so they can earn more or less depending on how many extras they do. Then, for extra bonus, if they do it promptly & w/out arguing about it, they get a sticker for the day. Once they earn 10 stickers they get 100 "Mima's Moolah" bucks. (Something my MIL invented) They can then use those "Mima's Moolah" bucks to "buy" something from the "Mima's Moolah" box.
I talked to them about it this morning and they all said it sounded like a good plan. It puts them more in control of their chores and attitude about their chores, so we'll see how it goes...
Monday, December 29, 2008
Anyway.. some days I wonder if parenting that way would be better. Spank for every misconduct. Discipline for every little wrong doing and don't ever back down until their will is broken.
But then I think... where did they get that will? What if I break the will that God was going to use for His glory one day? And if I do break that will, what is going to happen? Will that child, when s/he comes of age, use the will however s/he chooses because s/he was never taught that it was ok to have that strong will if they are using it to glorify God? I have seen this happen in a lot of the "strong willed children" I knew while growing up.
So I truck along... doing what I'm doing and praying that it's what the Lord wants me to do. Still... at times... I think that the appearance of 'perfect' sounds wonderful.
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
Day 2 of Christmas Vacation! I love it! No arguements about schoolwork AND it's so much easier to keep the house cleaned up when I have the morning free! WOO HOO!
Shhh!!! Don't tell the kids, but we're having Christmas at our house tomorrow! They don't know... They think we're going to be opening our gifts here on Friday, so it's going to be fun surprising them! DH is getting home from work early & then I'm going to take the kids somewhere: either outside or for a drive & while we're out he's going to set up all the gifts. When we get home, we'll have present time!!! And I'm making Christmas Dinner for us too: Turkey, Stuffing, Mashed Taters, the works! I'm kinda excited about starting our own family traditions. I felt a little silly doing it before because the kids were too young to care, but this year it's going to be fun!
Friday, December 19, 2008
Do you remember these things? They were big when I was a kid and are making a come back, I guess. My kids love to do these & my oldest even made a WAll-E and an Eve out of them!!
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
Topic 2: I was thinking the other day how much that we, even as adults, need our parents. I know some of us have "shunned" our parents in a way, but many of us still call them for various reasons. This hit me because of Sammy's tonsillitis. Who did I call when his fever hit 105? Not my Dr... I called Mom. And the time we were at my Moms house and Beth fell down and passed out? I called my step-dad to come help cause I was too scared. Over the years, tho I'm married & have children of my own I still find that I rely on my parents to keep me reassured when things are a bit scary... or to offer advice when I'm not sure what to do. I know it's not like this for all families, so I feel blessed that I am able to still have a good relationship with them.
Topic 3: Why can't children just do their chores w/out complaining? They have a chore chart, they are required to do the chores daily... and still it's a daily hour (or more!!) of complaining and me redirecting them back to doing their chores. (Cause they get distracted while doing them.) Case in point: Right now it's chore time. I'm sitting in the kitchen because James and Levi tend to bicker if I'm not w/ them. Annoying phase, but hopefully will be over soon... anyway. James' shirt is wet, so he needed to go change it. That was 3 minutes ago and he's still not back. Beth is cleaning the living room, but what she does is pick up one book, look it over for a while, then put it away. Then she picks up another book and does the same, etc, etc, until it's done. *sigh* I think part of my issues w/ it is that I just want it DONE. I don't see why they have to dawdle... it just needs to be done.
Topic 4: Dairy is extremely difficult to avoid.
Monday, December 15, 2008
Friday, December 12, 2008
While I was out there I realized how nice it is not to be pregnant. Even with Alyssa in the sling I was able to move around the yard and play w/ the kids so much easier than I could when I was pregnant. My hip and back problems are correcting themselves now and it's so freeing to be able to move with minimal pain again!
OFF TOPIC: (This is becoming daily.. maybe I should make it a daily thing! Lol!) I realized that Smart Balance has dairy in it! So I really haven't been off dairy yet at all. *sigh* So... Today is the REAL day 1 of being dairy free (hopefully) Alyssa's skin was starting to clear up just w/ cutting back on the dairy, so hopefully her other problems will resolve themselves once our bodies are clear of dairy for a few weeks. This is more difficult than I remembered it being.
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
I think we'll draw a new name every day and spend the day making that person feel special up until Christmas. I know it could continue past Christmas, but I want it to be something special and not get to be 'old hat'.
Side Note: I'm so sad... my crock pot died! That thing is a life saver and now it's dead. :(
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
Now, Sammy on the other hand, has been a complete pill this morning. He keeps throwing fits about EVERYTHING! I know he's not 100% healthy yet, but it's very annoying to hear his screaming.
However, I've been very thankful for Beth's help.... Lately she has had quite a knack for helping Sammy get out of his bad moods. She encourages him or distracts him. It's been so wonderful to see her growing and learning to help out more.
And despite the fighting we've been doing, I think that James is doing a little better too. He still fights and complains over E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G, but I'm realizing it's 6 y/o isms & that helps me because I realize he will outgrow it. So I try really hard to view each arguement as a teaching session. I also have decided not to tolerate any disrespect, so once he starts going off in a disrespectful manner he is put in his room until he can control himself. Once he gains control he comes out, apologizes and things are better. Phew. It's exhausting tho... I'm not saying it's easy. It takes a ton of patience and a lot of time to deal w/ him when he gets on his rampages, but I'm hoping & praying it will help in the end.
We were given a few unexpected blessings of cash over these past couple of weeks and I am SO THANKFUL for them.... because that means I can pay all the bills this month despite Matt's small paychecks. What a blessing!!!
Sunday, December 7, 2008
I tend to spend time online to escape from my reality... just for a few moments to realize that there are other Moms out there dealing with the same issues we deal with here in our home. The only problem is getting caught up in the drama that comes with message boards. Yes. drama. And it seems so crazy to get so involved in other people's lives... people I will never meet in my entire life. Yet it happens & connections are made, friendships are formed & enemies are made. It's interesting. But I needed a new place that I could feel welcome, but have no expectations of who I am placed on me. I found this board: http://www.justmommies.com/boards/index.php?showforum=116 It's an AP board, but doesn't have a Christian emphasis tho many of the mamas there are Christians. It's nice to be the 'newbie" and have no assumptions made yet about who I am or who my family is. That'll come w/ time tho.... That doesn't mean that I'm ditching my 'online home'... I'm just saying it's nice to have found another neat place to chat w/ women like me.
That being said, I think I need to try to find a way to fellowship w/ other women in real life. That's more difficult. Having 5 children definitely makes it harder to get involved and stay involved in things. I need to think up a way tho.
LOL... I'm sitting here at the computer, bouncing Alyssa on my knee and blogging when I look down and notice I need to dust the desk. How do I know this? Because James (6 y/o) wrote his initials in the dust at the base of the computer! LOL! How embarrassing to admit that I haven't dusted in a while *blush*
Saturday, December 6, 2008
Friday, December 5, 2008
We're playing hookie today. Homeschoolers can't really play hookie unless it's from an organized activity w/ other homeschoolers. We were supposed to go to Friday School this morning, but Sammy was up hourly last night and still lethargic w/ a bit of a fever this morning. Levi is complaining about a yucky stomach & Alyssa (the baby) seems off still too. *sigh* But it's all good... Alyssa and Sammy are sleeping and the other 3 are watching a movie, so I'm cleaning! It's already starting to look better in here... which is good. I have a lady coming to pick up a puppy tonight & I like the house presentable when people come over. NOT an easy task w/ 5 children in the house. But I'll do it... it's worth it to be down to 6 puppies. :)
Thursday, December 4, 2008
I've dealt with PPD before and I don't feel quite like that, but I do feel if I don't start taking preventative measures I'm going to slip back into it. I don't want to... It's a dark, sad, lonely place.
So that's my feeling for today... overwhelmed..now I need to figure out how to avoid PPD or sinking further into this stress & frustration.
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
(Oh... & I'm lucky too cause it means he is home more often! woohoo!)
6 weeks ago we prepped the seeds for stratification and put them in the fridge. Today was planting day!! We turned it into a science lesson, of course. The kids were all little rain clouds, dripping the water on the newly planted seeds. Now we wait... and hope they grow.
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
But it's all good now. The children are schooling, the baby is napping, the puppies are quiet, the toddler is playing happily, bread is baking & I even found out my favorite creamer is dairy free!
Monday, December 1, 2008
Are we insane? Yes.
Are we happy? Yes.
Are we overwhelmed? Yes.
Are we blessed? Most definitely.
My days are filled with diaper changes, schooling, nursing, housework and all the things that being a stay at home homeschooling mom of 5 entails. Some days are insane, some are peaceful, but all days are busy. I'm trying to find the balance in parenting. Aren't we all? I'm trying to discover what being a parent is really all about and how to raise my children to become well rounded adults. I recently told my 6 y/o (James) that being a kid is preparation for being an adult. That all you learn as a child will help you to be a 'grown up' (he's always stating that he can't wait to be a grown up so he can set his own rules.) Later the next day I overheard him telling his 7 y/o brother (Levi) what I had said... so maybe, just maybe some of what I'm teaching will get through... to them & to me.