Thursday, April 22, 2010

The One With Parenting Thoughts

More parenting thoughts...

I've read a lot of parenting books in my time. I'm always looking and searching for new ideas, new thoughts, new ways of dealing with the day to day things we encounter. And it seems that as soon as I figure out how to deal with "x", they start doing "y" and I have to start all over again.

This move has thrown us all over the edge. We are currently staying in a rental that belongs to my parents. I'm constantly on edge because I'm afraid the children will mark up walls or floors or damage something in some way. That's the biggest reason I dislike renting! I also feel so in limbo and unsettled because I know we're not staying here and I don't know where we're going to end up. So I'm on edge and I admit, a wee bit grumpy and overwhelmed. The children are feeding off of that and we're having to deal with things I've never really had to deal with before. There is a lot of fighting, more disrespect, many meltdowns, crying, fussing, arguing w/ me... and the list could go on. To be honest I'd love to just spank it all out of them... make them behave by making them fearful. It sounds easier in so many ways than trying to deal with the inner heart and emotions of each individual child and myself. But I won't do that because I know that in the long run that only teaches them to stifle their feelings and not learn to deal with them in the right way.

There needs to be a book written "How to Parent Your Children Through a Move and Limbo Stage and Stay Sane"

3 comments:

JesseniaT_Orndorff1021 said...

TAHNKS FOR YOUR SHARING~~~VERY NICE.................................................

重俐 said...

辛苦了!祝你愈來愈好!........................................

TulipGirl said...

We've been in the middle of transition / moving, too -- and the kids have been in quarantine because of exposure to chicken pox (two times, over a period of time). . . and so I hear you! It's hard for kids, it's hard for parents to be in the midst of moves and changes.

Had a long walk and snuggle with one of my boys yesterday. He'd been indicating with his behaviour that he needed a little mom time. Did I give it when I saw the need? Nope. Sigh. Too many other things "needed" to get done. So it wasn't until he really reached the breaking point that I spent that time with him. It can be hard.

Grace and hope,